“Since no man knows the future, who can tell him what is to come?”
We are often disillusioned with how much time we have left. Frequently we hear people complain about just not having enough time, not enough hours in the day.
And how often do we hear people living in the future with comments like:
‘when I have enough money, then ….’
‘when the children grow up, then …
When …then ….Living in the future robs us of all the joys of the present. But these thoughts also keep us very, very busy in our imaginings.
The writer of Ecclesiastes was an old man who confessed that he had wasted much of his long life. He was too old to correct his ways, but it wasn’t too late for the young. He tried to encourage his readers to go for simplicity in food, entertainment and work. He encouraged them to look for joy in the companionship of their friends, a cheerful disposition and a reverence for God. Now in his old age these were the lessons of life that he wanted to pass on.
Anxious people tend to live in the future. Listen to yourself and others. If you notice the words “what if” being used frequently, it’s a sure indicator that the person suffers from anxiety.
Whatever you’re doing, wherever you are just keep keep reminding yourself to MAKE THE MOST OF THE MOMENT!
‘Character isn’t inherited. One builds it daily by the way one thinks and acts, thought by thought, action by action. If one lets fear or hate or anger take possession of the mind, they become self-forged chains.‘ Helen Gahagan Douglas
Helen Gahagan Douglas (1900-1980) began her professional career on the Broadway stage and was regarded as a “star” at the age twenty-two. By the 1930s, she moved to California with her husband, Hollywood actor Melvyn Douglas. There she soon found herself involved in politics and was elected Democratic National Committeewoman from California in 1944. For the rest of her life, she remained a tireless public speaker and activist.
Douglas gets to the core of how character is developed with this quote of hers. You can’t blame your genes for your character. Actually if you do, you become a victim and develop a victim mentality. ‘I can’t help it …. that’s the way I’m made ..’ is the cry of a victim mentality.
I love hearing about people who have succeeded despite the odds being stacked against them. Our thoughts direct our mood and our behavior. If you have a victim mentality, you will have ‘victim’ behavior. Our character is developed by choosing ‘right actions’. Fear, hate and anger keep us in the past and keep one a victim, chained to the past. The only way to move forward is through forgiveness, letting go of hurts and anger. The person who hurt us has forgotten what they did that offended us, while we hang on to the hurts and stew in the pain through not forgiving. And fears? You’ve got to face them as it’s avoidance that keeps a person anxious.
Forgive and move on, that’s the way to build good character. Carefully watch your thoughts and discard any that keep you miserable.